THERAPY FOR RELATIONSHIPS IN NEW YORK, NY
You’ve worked hard in your relationships—but the relationship with yourself may have been left behind. Online sessions available across NY & UT.
YOU CARE DEEPLY ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIPS—so why do they feel so hard?
Even simple things these days tend to trigger emotions that seem out of your control or bigger than the moment itself. Cancelled plans feel like a personal rejection, or when someone is upset with you, your body reacts as if you are the problem. You leave conversations wondering why you were affected so strongly by what the other person said, or why the same old patterns keep repeating when you’re trying to do better.
You might recognize experiences like:
Feeling triggered when a partner or family member is upset with you, even when your mind knows you didn’t do anything wrong.
Finding yourself prioritizing other people’s feelings while ignoring your own needs.
Struggling to set boundaries, worrying that saying no will disappoint or upset someone.
Wanting healthy relationships, but often feeling hurt, rejected, or misunderstood.
YOUR BRAIN WAS WIRED FOR CONNECTION WITH OTHERS. SOMETIMES, PAST EXPERIENCES TEACH YOU TO EXPECT pain INSTEAD.
That’s what therapy can help you change.
HOW I CAN HELP
While many people come to therapy wanting to “fix” their relationships with others, the most important work usually begins somewhere else: Your relationship with yourself.
Relationship patterns rarely start in the relationship you’re currently in. They’re shaped by our earlier attachments with others, often in childhood and within our family dynamics. That’s why my work is not just about improving communication on the surface—you need something deeper. I help you understand the real reasons why you react the way you do, why certain dynamics feel so hard to change, and what is happening internally when you feel rejected, dismissed, or responsible for fixing someone else’s feelings.
My approach is trauma-informed and focused on helping clients build a stronger relationship with themselves first.
We work on emotional regulation, self-compassion, self-validation, and boundary-setting because these are often the foundation for healthier relationships with others. When appropriate, I also use EMDR to help process the earlier experiences that continue to fuel reactions and emotions in the present. This can be especially helpful when you know things are tied to painful earlier experiences, but still feel stuck in the same emotional cycles. When the past hasn't been processed, it often shows up in our closest relationships.
Over time, you can begin to feel steadier and more sure of yourself as you cultivate a deeper, more compassionate relationship with yourself. That shift quietly changes how you show up with the people you love. The goal here is never perfection in relationships—that’s not realistic. Instead, I’m here to help you feel more grounded, more connected, and more like yourself in your closest relationships.
WHAT CAN CHANGE WITH THERAPY
YOU CAN SAY NO WITHOUT GUILT.
Setting boundaries with family, partners, coworkers, or supervisors feels less like you’re doing something wrong or failing, and more like you’re honoring your needs and staying true to yourself.
YOU TRUST YOUR FEELINGS MORE IN RELATIONSHIPS.
When something hurts or feels unfair, you can acknowledge it instead of immediately doubting yourself.
YOU RESPOND INSTEAD OF REACT.
If a partner says something upsetting or a parent is critical, you’re better able to pause and respond rather than being pulled into the same emotional spiral.
YOU STOP ABANDONING YOURSELF TO KEEP OTHERS HAPPY.
You begin making decisions based on what actually feels right for you, not just what will keep the peace or what you’ve always done in the past.
YOU FEEL MORE SECURE IN WHO YOU ARE.
Someone else’s disappointment, frustration, or disapproval no longer shakes your confidence or sense of self the way it once did.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO KEEP LOSING YOURSELF IN RELATIONSHIPS.
FAQs
COMMON QUESTIONS
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Strong reactions in relationships are often connected to earlier experiences—particularly childhood and family dynamics where your nervous system learned what relationships were supposed to feel like. When those early relationships taught you that love was conditional, that your needs were too much, or that expressing your true feelings meant risking the connection you depended on, you learned to protect yourself. You sought approval, avoided conflict, and suppressed what you truly felt. All to stay connected to the people who mattered most.
But your nervous system never forgets the blueprint. When the present echoes the past —someone withdraws, criticizes, or disapproves — you are no longer responding to what is happening now. You are responding to everything that happened before.
Therapy helps you understand why you are reacting — and where it began. So you can finally show up in your relationships as who you are now — not who you learned to be.
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That experience is very common and is a major part of the work we’ll do together. In therapy, we focus on strengthening your relationship with yourself so you can stay connected to your needs, values, and boundaries within relationships.
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I have extensive experience helping my clients navigate relationship challenges, especially within the context of trauma—from family dynamics and intimate partnerships to the complexities of the workplace. Much of my work focuses on helping clients understand and shift long-standing relationship patterns. Many people come to therapy feeling easily triggered by partners or family members, struggling to set boundaries, or feeling responsible for other people’s emotions. I specialize in trauma-informed therapy, which means we look beyond surface-level communication issues to understand how earlier experiences and family dynamics may still be shaping how you respond to relationship challenges today.
Using approaches such as EMDR, along with skills in emotion regulation, self-compassion, and boundary setting, I help clients build a stronger relationship with themselves so they can show up and choose relationships without losing themselves in the process.
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Relationship patterns begin long before our current relationships. So if you grew up feeling criticized, ignored, or responsible for other people’s emotions, those experiences still shape and affect how you react to conflict, closeness, or rejection today.
EMDR helps your nervous system process those earlier experiences, so they lose their grip on how you show up today. As the emotional weight of the past softens, many people find they feel less reactive and more able to communicate effectively, set boundaries, and feel secure in their relationships.
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No. Relationship work isn’t only about romantic partners. Many people come to therapy because they notice patterns in friendships, family relationships, or even at work. This work focuses on strengthening your relationship with yourself -the most important relationship of all. We seek to improve your boundaries, emotional awareness, and self-trust. When that relationship becomes stronger, it naturally improves how you show up with others.
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Yes, of course. Many children of immigrants carry complex experiences related to family expectations, responsibility, loyalty, and cultural values. I understand it on a very personal level. In therapy, we can explore how those experiences have shaped your relationship with yourself and your family. My goal is to create a safe space where you can understand those dynamics while also learning how to set boundaries and care for yourself in a healthier way.
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