Meet FuFan Chiang, LMFT
EMDR Certified Therapist | Online in New York City, NY & across UT.
It’s time to break the patterns that are no longer serving you.
MY BACKGROUND & STORY
My path to becoming a therapist grew from a deep curiosity about how early life experiences and family patterns shape the way we relate to ourselves and others. At a young age, I noticed I was deeply impacted by my family both in a positive and negative way. Growing up, I began to see that intergenerational trauma didn’t stay in the past; it followed me into the present, weaving itself into my relationship with myself and others, even my dog! This legacy had a profound impact on nearly every facet of my life—how I approached money, my struggle to set boundaries, and the ways I showed both my anger and my love. I realized I was navigating the world through a lens shaped long before I was born. I was carrying my family’s history in my own life until I began my healing to reset my nervous system and allow the past to stay in the past.
My journey is what makes me not just a counselor, but a witness—someone who will not flinch at the complexity of your story, because I have lived in that complexity too.
When you’ve been pushing through for years, your nervous system rarely gets a chance to rest.
This may be all too familiar: slowing down is uncomfortable, and setting boundaries feels wrong. Even when you accomplish what you set out to achieve, it never seems to bring the satisfaction or kind of relief you expected.
That’s a signal to start doing things differently.
My clients often come to me because they are…
Tired of second-guessing themselves, even if they know they’re capable.
Pushing through life, but feeling disconnected from who they really are.
Grappling with cultural or familial messages that measure their worth or value by how well they perform.
Struggling to set boundaries without feeling guilty.
Having strong emotional reactions that are hurting their relationships with partners or family.
Ready to understand their past even if they’re not quite sure if they’ve experienced “trauma.”
Looking for real, lasting change—not just a diagnostic label to define who they are.
My Philosophy
THE PATTERNS YOU’RE NOTICING? THEY DIDN’T COME OUT OF NOWHERE.
Many of the people I work with are high-achieving professionals. On top of their own capabilities and day-to-day responsibilities, they’re carrying a lot—in careers, in their families, and often within their communities. For many of my Asian and Mandarin-speaking clients, any sort of success is closely tied to family expectations, sacrifice, and loyalty. Achievement has felt less like a choice and more like a responsibility. Performing well, staying composed, and not disappointing others is just what was and is expected.
The way you’re feeling today—the discomfort, overwhelm, or self-doubt—formed in response to earlier experiences. They might be rooted in criticism, emotional neglect, instability, or trauma, whether you’ve labeled it that way or not. Now, the coping skills that worked then are showing up now as anxiety, perfectionism, people-pleasing, anger, or difficulty setting and keeping boundaries. It’s no wonder you’ve felt overwhelmed—this is what I’m here to help you change.
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THE ESSENCE OF TRAUMA IS DISCONNECTION FROM THE SELF.
- Gábor Maté
WHAT TO EXPECT
MY HOPE IS THAT THIS SPACE FEELS DIFFERENT FROM THE PLACES YOU’VE HAD TO PERFORM OR EXPLAIN YOURSELF.
Here, you do not need to translate your experience for someone who has never felt it. You do not need to justify the weight you are carrying or convince me it is real. I already know it is real. In our work together, I will honor that while also being honest when something needs to shift. You set the pace, and I don’t pressure you into change before you’re ready. But when you are ready, we get to work.
A large part of therapy is strengthening your own relationship with yourself. When you become attuned to your own needs, desires, and values, things can truly start to change: you recognize that boundaries aren’t about pushing people away but instead help you stay present without burning out. You’ll begin to understand the deeper reasons for your emotions, get curious about what your reactions are trying to communicate, and choose responses that feel more aligned with who you really are.
Healing is ultimately reconnecting to yourself. It’s when the past begins to loosen its hold, and you’re no longer living in survival mode. It's when you can gently turn inward—feeling what's been waiting to be felt, grieving what deserves to be grieved—and slowly, carefully, build a life where you finally feel at home in yourself and with the people who matter most.
THE FOUNDATION OF MY WORK
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I understand the unique challenges many Asian and Asian American clients navigate, including family expectations, achievement pressure, and loyalty to family systems. In our work, we create a safe space to explore these dynamics honestly while helping you build a stronger relationship with yourself. As that connection shifts, it begins to reshape how you relate to your family and community as well.
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EMDR is the core of our work. It helps your nervous system fully process unresolved experiences so the past doesn’t have such a strong emotional charge, and you can live life fully in the present. This focus also allows us to notice how earlier experiences in your life—including complex or relational trauma—shaped your current reactions, patterns, behavior, and self-perception.
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I integrate DBT and CBT strategies to strengthen your emotional clarity, which helps you step out of reactive patterns and ultimately build the skills to show up fully—in your work, your relationships, and within yourself.
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Through Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Ego State work, we explore the many different parts of you—the driven part, the anxious part, the self-critical part, and more. The goal isn't simply to quiet these parts, but to help the wiser part of you take the lead—with clarity, compassion, and steadiness—so every part of you finally has somewhere steady to turn.
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Therapy with me is a partnership—we’re in this together. I support you in recognizing what’s already working, challenging you when needed, while also helping you move forward when you’re ready.
EDUCATION & BACKGROUND
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Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) – New York License #001361-01
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) – Utah License # 11768707-3902
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EMDR Certified - #: 161550
Advanced EMDR Training:
EMDR for Couples’ Therapy
The Distancing Approach for OCD
The Flash Technique
EMDR for complex trauma
DeTur Protocol (to desensitize urges)
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)
Ego State Interventions (Robin Shapiro)
Certified Family-Centered Treatment Clinician
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Convenient online sessions available across NY & UT.